In our constant pursuit of the one, we sometimes end up kissing frogs on our journey for true love. Whether emotionally unavailable or simply not ready to commit, we have met people who cannot be our potential partners simply because they cannot love us back the way we do.
While we often think that we can change a person and make them fall for us, unrequited love is one of the most painful things one goes through. And it’s only a matter of chance that the other falls for you eventually. Other times, it almost always stays that way — one-sided with no hope of reciprocation.
If you have been in a painful situation like this before, you must know that you owe them nothing, and you should, in fact, suck it up and stand up for yourself. Letting go is always hard, but we must know when and how we should do it, and here are a few things that help you finally let go.
1. Admit that this is going nowhere
Be honest with yourself and admit that this crush really isn’t going anywhere and you cannot wait around forever.
2. Take your mind off of it
Adopt a new hobby, work towards your goal, and really find something that can replace the space that they’ve occupied in your head.
3. Practice self-love
Pamper yourself, work towards being your best self every day, and slowly accept that this person is not worth the heartache.
4. Accept that you cannot change what they want
Remember that sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you simply can’t force compatibility. You must move on and find someone with whom you can actually click.
5. Let it all out
Talk about them to a trusted friend or write your feelings and burn that piece of paper. Pouring your heart out will make you feel lighter.
6. Distance yourself
Don’t avoid them like the plague, but don’t make extra efforts to be around them either.
7. Remember that it takes time
There’s no on/off switch for letting go. You have to give it time and remember that it’s for your own good.
8. Meet new people
Meet new friends and genuinely form meaningful platonic relationships to focus on your overall wellbeing.
9. Open yourself up to love
Don’t shut yourself out and resign to the idea that there’s no one out there who’s meant for you. Be on the lookout. You never know who might turn out to be the one for you.