You’ve found the woman you believe may just be that ‘special someone.’ You share laughter and good times together, enjoy one another’s company and bring a smile to each other’s faces.
The more time you spend together, the more comfortable it all feels and each time you look into her eyes you can picture yourself spending the rest of your lives together.
BUT – How do you know that you have actually found the woman you should marry?
While marriage is always a risk, you will never know unless you try! You will never be 100% sure, that’s part of the excitement and adventure of life, however, there are some signs that will help you to confirm that you are about to make the right decision.
- You have a genuine friendship.
Marriage is a partnership that is going to last you for the rest of your life. You don’t just want to marry your girlfriend, you want to marry your best friend! You want to spend your life with someone that you can enjoy facing the ups and downs of this crazy adventure.
- She isn’t overly jealous.
There seems to be a push in the media to showcase the overly jealous, overly clingy woman, painting it as being a sign of knowing that you found someone who ‘just cares for you SO much that she can’t share you.’ This isn’t a healthy approach to a relationship and should raise a red flag! A healthy relationship would involve a woman who understands your commitment to priorities like your career, and also recognizes that once in awhile you just want to spend some time with the boys.
- She is highly intelligent.
While some may find intelligence to be intimidating, it is actually a special and beautiful strength that you should highly value. Marrying someone who is intelligent will mean that she not only keeps you on your toes physically but will continue to test, push and expand your way of thinking.
- You share hobbies, however, also live your own lives.
We’ve all seen it on television: that couple that the second they get together discards everything and anything that defined each of them as individuals before that fateful moment. The truth is a healthy relationship doesn’t mean discarding who you each are on your own, but rather embracing it and learning how your individual lives fit together.
- She is completely honest with you.
She highly respects you, enough so that she believes that you deserve to hear the truth in every situation. While she never wants to put you into a situation in which she would be tempted to tell you a lie, she knows that the better approach is to tell you the less than desirable truth and accept the consequences as required in order to ensure that she isn’t going to betray your trust.
- She has emotional control.
While some women struggle to keep their emotions in check, she is able to keep a calm and level head. While this doesn’t mean that she doesn’t get emotional from time to time, shedding a tear when the situation warrants, she is not likely going to fly off the handle at an inappropriate moment due to an irrational decision.
- She is willing to work on your relationship.
Relationships aren’t easy! They take a lot of time, dedication and hard work. She is aware of this fact and isn’t going to go running when the times get difficult. She is mature and understands that she is going to have to dedicate time and energy to your relationship for the rest of your lives together, and that is a commitment that she is willing to make.
- She is always working on improving herself.
While she may seem ‘perfect’ to you today, she is always focused on the ways in which she can continue to grow and improve upon herself. She recognizes that we all have weaknesses, and is willing to take the difficult and necessary steps to identify and work on her own. This will also mean that she is more understanding of the weaknesses of others.
- She challenges you to become a better person.
She isn’t only focused on improving herself but is also willing to push you to improve and grow as well, helping you to become the best possible version of yourself. This doesn’t mean that she is looking to outright change you but instead is willing to help you bring out the person you already are deep down.
- She is naturally empathetic.
She has a large heart and genuinely cares for the people around her. While others may be overly self-focused, she opens herself up and connects intimately with those that she encounters in life. Somehow, she always seems to have the right thing to say or the best approach to dealing with a situation when it comes up.
- She gets along with you friends.
Let’s face it – if you do marry her and you still want to maintain your friendships they are going to end up spending time with one another. Rather than creating an awkward situation, she has no problem rolling with your buddies, enjoying the time together. She also trusts them enough to be okay with the times you just want to go out with the guys.
- She knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid of the work it will require.
She isn’t one to just float through life, rolling with the punches and waiting to see where life may lead her. Instead, she has taken the time to set some ambitious goals and isn’t about to shy away from the work that it will take to make them a reality. She isn’t willing to settle when she knows that the ability to move forward is within her own power.