Dating in high school was massively different than dating as an adult. While in school you were attracted to the thrill and adventure of the dating game, often being drawn to partners who were not necessarily the best fit. The stereotype of the ‘rebel bad girl’ was just as attractive to boys as the rebel bad boy was to high school girls.
At the time the idea of a girl who was ‘too cool to keep a job’, spending her days at home smoking weed and not caring about responsibility was attractive, however, as we age we mature, and we quickly learn that as an adult these qualities aren’t nearly as attractive as they were to our teenage selves.
Are you done with the high school drama and games, and are interested in attracting a mature woman? Look for these 10 qualities:
A mature woman will value her inner beauty as much, if not more than her external beauty.
While a mature woman will take a great deal of pride in her appearance, she doesn’t invest all of her time and energy into it as she also acknowledges the importance of her inner beauty. She will spend a significant amount of time building and improving upon herself through activities such as reading, attending classes and meditating.
Women don’t require you to meet their every need.
Girls live in a world in which they dream of the perfect Hollywood relationship with the perfect knight in shining armor who sweeps them off their feet, meeting their every need in life. Women acknowledge that to expect perfection is unrealistic as they aren’t perfect themselves. They will turn to their group of friends for ‘girl talk’ or have a ‘safe’ man a message away when they need a date when you are unavailable. They accept what you have to offer, however they are also able to take care of many of their own needs rather than expecting you to handle everything.
A woman will stand strong for the underdogs.
While the stereotype of a ‘mean girl’ may be attractive in high school, often associated with popularity, this doesn’t carry through to adult life. Mature women value and respect everyone that they encounter, regardless of their standing in life. The old saying goes “a man who is not nice to the waiter is not a nice man” and this can also be applied to the women in your life.
Mature women will happily give you advice; however, they will not demand that you follow it.
High school girls love the idea of maintaining complete control, telling their partners what to do and when to do it, becoming highly agitated when their rules aren’t followed. Mature women, however, acknowledge that you are old enough to be capable of making your own life decisions. They will offer advice on the situation, however when it all comes down to it, it is your decision to make, and they will not be upset or offended if you don’t agree with their advised approach to the situation.
A woman is comfortable with her sensuality and physical beauty.
Girls are often unsure of themselves in the areas of physical attraction and beauty. They pursue men who will validate their feelings of beauty and attractiveness, as they struggle with the concept of their own self-worth. They may not even be attracted to the men in question, however, they feel as though the conquest proves their power and beauty. Women, however, know and are comfortable with their own power. They are comfortable and confident and don’t require a man to validate these feelings.
A woman has a solid sense of humor.
As girls are still highly focused on the authority figures in their life, including their parents, and how to ensure that they are staying within their guidelines and rules, they spend much of their life worrying about what is considered to be ‘proper’. Women, however, are comfortable in their roles in life and embrace an ‘earthy’ humor. They can laugh at jokes that may not be considered to be ‘proper’ in certain circles, and are able to determine what jokes are appropriate to share in certain company.
They understand the importance of self-care for overall health.
Girls are taught that they should always spend their time and energy worrying about everyone else, putting the needs of those around them before their own at every turn. As they grow up and mature they learn that this way of living is exhausting and draining, and there is a certain amount of self-care required in order to stay physically, mentally and emotionally healthy. If they are unable to take care of themselves, they will not have the resources required to take care of those that they care about.
Women are not desperate for your validation.
There is a level of self-confidence that is discovered and built upon with age, a true understanding of who a woman is both inside and out. She will stay true to herself regardless of what occurs within her relationships. This is unlike the stereotypical high school aged girl who will learn to walk, talk, think, act and dress in the way that they believe their boyfriend would like them to, so eager to please that they push their true identity aside.